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Urgent!! What to write in a pre-breakup email?
I fear the worst has come between my boyfriend and myself. It has been two weeks of ups and downs. He claims to be stressed at work and that I was only adding to that because of my fears of losing him due to the stress. I would tell him that I didn't want to lose him but he would just coldly reply that I would lose him if I kept thinking that.
It had all started going down hill when I discovered that he was still in contact with his ex. I was hurt and wondered why he was still talking to her. I retreated into my shell because I had been cheated on before. Later on he explained he was merely trying to get his things back from her.
So that’s when he blamed me for acting different and that I have changed. He asked for a break and it was 3 days before he texted me back saying sorry it had come to this and that he still wants me in his life but he's still very stressed. I was trying to show him that I am happy and that I'm not the one causing him stress.
It had almost gotten better but then it went downhill all in the same week. He was giving me cold answers, he didn't bother to respond to any of my emails or asking how I was. We went a weekend without talking.
We recently spoke this morning and now he's 10x more bitter with his words. I don't know why he isn't telling me that he wants out yet. I refuse to give up on him. It’s like he wants me to end it but I refuse to give up knowing I'm not the one giving him stress. He’s not the same man that I had once fallen in love with. It’s like he’s been brainwashed to hate me suddenly. I know I can help him with work and help him better himself. I have been loyal and faithful to him. I waited for him while he was on a 9 month deployment. His ex seems to have somehow bedded herself into his life again and I know she’s only playing him. She’s the one who cheated on him and used him. Every time I brought that up he would instantly get mad at me.
So why is he not ending it? He's clearly not trying to rekindle the relationship.
So now I am forced with the decision to ask him what we are and what was it that I did to make him hate me so much in just a short amount of time. We cannot see each other due to living a few hours apart. So I have to write an email. What should I say in this email?
I tried writing one but I realized I kept saying sorry for ruining it. And its hard for me not to mention his ex blaming her for ruining our relationship. I just know that’s going to annoy him if I keep apologizing and suggesting that he’s going to go back to her.
I fear of it ending... I really do. I don't do well with breakups. I would lose a lot of weight and feel down about myself for a long time.