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Thats not a answer......or is it?

Published on July 6, 2010 by crowland

So I ask the man I have been talking to for awhile "am I getting anywhere with you, because I feel like I'm not". His reply" With me its a slow process, I don't want you to be upset but if you need more I understand!" Ummm, I did not ask him to marry me in the morning. I asked him if I was getting anywhere. Is it safe for me to assume the answer is NO! What the hell kind of answer was that anyways??? Help...please...someone?


At least he was honest, even though his response was sort of vague.

I think it wouldn't hurt for you to explore other options. If he catches up to your pace of moving forward at some point, and you're still interested, that's fine.

Your question was kind of vague so it is hard to answer this. Are you seeing someone or just talking to someone? If you are just talking to someone, I think his answer is very appropriate. He does not know you well enough. He needs more time to get to know you and meet you. He needs more time and in a slower pace. People who you are talking to on the phone are going to be more cautious, you should respect that. If he come across more willing, you should be more worried.This just means, he has very little boundaries. If you have met him in person and he makes that comment, I would give him credit for being honest. Either way, don't be so pushy, what is the rush? you are coming across as desperate. I am sure that is not what you want,right!

Thank you for your answers, I am new to this whole dating thing. I only wanted to know if I was getting anywhere because it felt like I was wasting my time. But I am not desperate nor do I want to come off that way. Just wanted to know where I stood I guess. Maybe I said it the wrong way. Well i think it is done now, we havent spoke in a week. I told him he failed at answering my question but he succeeded in giving me a cavity with the sugar coated answer.......................Thanks for your help!

Yeah, I agree with Rose. It's clear he was trying to be as honest as possible. If you're unsatisfied with the slow progress of the relationship, I would say try moving on. He's probably just not ready for the serious relationship you want now.