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Should we take a break? Or just break up?
It's been over two years dating my boyfriend and we just finished a grueling two week trip out of state with his whole family where I was introduced for the first time. We very much agree on the values of marriage and that that is the direction we both want to take in life. We've had an understanding that after this important trip we would begin seriously talking about engagement. The trip went great, but now that we're back he is unable to even broach the subject without shutting down: "I don't have any answers for you; I can't talk about it right now." Out the blue, he totally flipped out that I posted pictures the huge family reunion stating: "That was not appropriate, they're NOT YOUR family! That's not for you to share!" I mean, ouch! When we're not discussing the words "future, family, or marriage" we seem to be soul mates; and while he verbally admits he wants to get married "someday" and raise a family he seems to be absolutely terrified of commitment and maybe not really wanting me to be part of "his family" after all. I'm done with excuses. My emotional gas tank is empty. I feel the need to step away from the situation. The idea of an ultimatum is very unappealing to me. Is taking a break to "date myself?" a good idea or just postponement of eventual break-up? Am I wasting my time?