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Should i wait this out or go back in the dating pool?

Published on January 5, 2010 by atl1911

I have been dating my girlfriend for 8 months. she has never been married and i had been married for 18 years. She has a 13 year old son and i am a primary custodial parent of a 15 year old and 5 year old son. I get along with her great, we share alot of common interests,spend alot of time together, indivuially and collectively with the boys, who also get along We have taken trips out of town together and have discussed moving in. Recently, she has requested space so that she can see if this relationship-merger is really want she wants. I also have feel that this is tied to my 5 year old son and the possibility of her possible reluctance to provide additional structure and stabilty in his life, but i am not sure. She has also mentioned that she feels smothered, feels anxiety ,feels like she is pushed in a corner questions herself as far as whether or not she can deal with a household of 3 boys. Her son is all in favor of a merge, but mama seems to be getting cold feet. I love her and told her to take a walk in faith and everything is going to be OK. I feel that uf we merged, we would definately compliment each other in providing additional structure and stability in the household, especially for my 5 year old son. Should I wait this out or go back into the dating pool?


Wake up guy. She asked for room because she doesn't want a committed relationship with you - whatever her reason. Smothered? A guy who loves her, a family with real commitments? Two kids and never a commitment? Again, history repeats itself. She'll never stay, whether for a few months or a few years. Until she reveals why to herself she will only hurt you. Be friends, maybe even with benefits, but don't expect more. And dont let her get in the way of you and your sons finding someone who loves you.