I've been dating with this guy for almost 2 years. I have used Dr. John Gray's books as my guideline on trying to understand the differences between men and women and I had tried Dr. John Gray's advice in the book on how to deal with this guy. This guy that I've been dating has a very bad temper and it's really hard for me to communicate with him. I understand that we cannot argue with a hot tempered guy because it will make it worse. I have always tried to calm him everytime he gets angry. However,sometimes, I get angry too because I cannot confess my frustration, when I'm the one that needs to tolerate him. He is a wonderful guy, who always makes me laugh. But the main problems with him is just that he don't like to hear other people's thoughts, he's a bad tempered person and always want people to do things his way. We have plans to get married soon. Do you think that he is the right person for me to get married to and how do I deal with this kind of guy?Thank you for your time
You need to get away from this guy! If it's this bad now,imagine what it will be like if you two get married! I lost a good friend this year who died at the hands of her husband who killed himself afterwards and now 2 innocent children are left without parents and I don't want to see this happen to you. God has better for your life than this if you'll just trust Him. And as far as self-help books go,The Bible is the best one there is. I will be praying for you and your situation.
I am in the process of divorcing a man like you've described. It's called abuse..you're are being emotionally and verbally abused...leave him. NO...this is not the guy for you. I had talked myself into believing that if I talked or acted differently....it was an emotional nightmare having to walk on egg shells. Please, please, please..have respect for yourself and leave him. You deserve a man who will RESPECT you...that's what it's all about.
Whatever "issues" there are now, you can not assume that will magically get better when you get married. Most of the time, the current problems will only be magnified once married. A marriage without good communication will almost always fail - and what you are describing is no communication at all, which is even worse. You should never settle for being with someone who you cannot completely be yourself with and express your thoughts and feelings to. The good news is, this experience will help you be more appreciative of a real man when you find him!!!