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Should i let my boyfriend go out to the strip club?

Published on January 8, 2010 by krespoh

Okay. I just wanna know if i should be over protective about my boyfriend going out to the strip club? It makes me feel like im not enough for him that he has to go to strip clubs and watch naked girls dance? Im worried that he'll leave me or feel unatrracted to me.. why i should or should'nt let him go?HELP.. i need males point of view as well as women.!~

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I know what you mean. My boyfriend went to a strip club and then didn't tell me about it till weeks afterward, but then I realized I was ok with it. The part I wasn't ok with, was that he didn't tell me. You have to know him and trust him that he won't cheat on you. You have to be willing to trust him enough to let him go. I know my boyfriend has porn, I have seen his stash. That's normal for a guy. I can't be there every time he needs to get some. I also know that when he comes home from the strip club and he is really turned on and drunk, I am going to be the one he comes to for sex. Not the stripper. He goes out to strip clubs to get really turned on, and then he comes home, and we end up having really hot sex that night. But it is hard to get used to at first. You have to be really trusting.

I have gone with him to the strip club before. Lots of times the strippers will give you free drinks and stuff if you go in there because they think you are awesome for letting your bf get a lapdance. And they wear really cool shoes.

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Hey girl, u're putting your relationship at risk, man are weak when comes to stuff like this. one day might be a bad day, girlfriend end now. you can make feel wired in the house by wearing some sexy cloth, dancing for him, no how he wann it and do it for him is better that way than accepting that he go to strip club

Okay. I just wanna know if i should be over protective about my boyfriend going out to the strip club? It makes me feel like im not enough for him that he has to go to strip clubs and watch naked girls dance? Im worried that he'll leave me or feel unatrracted to me.. why i should or should'nt let him go?HELP.. i need males point of view as well as women.!~

OK, from a guy to answer your question. Guys are very visual, especially for sex and women. You gals keep "Everything" hidden like it is the "ONLY" pair of breasts or furry little critter in the world! (The Europeans have an upper hand on us with topless and more nude beaches. After a few times it isn't all such a mystery and becomes more about the person.) We love to look at and admire women, and yes it does excite us, that is partially why we go. 99% of men do not go to a strip club to have sex with the dancers or anyone related to the club. They might go home and jerk off, or come home to you and want to bury themselves and their thoughts deep into you. Yeah, they may even fantasize about having sex with this person, especially if they go home by themselves, but never to replace the women in their lives. I have been to a couple of shows over the years and loved the nights they had local women dancing, and not professionals with hard stiff boobs that don't or could not move. They were enjoyed more because they are more like you and the girl next door. Not because they want to have sex with this person. It is entertainment and excitement of seeing a nude woman in front of them and watching how everything moves and giggles. A woman's breast can take so many shapes and sizes by the way she moves is just beautiful, like looking at a flower from all angles. I have never wanted to have sex with any of these women, even if it was fantasized later, to was just to get relief from a climax and remove all that tension, and yes there is tension build up with no sex. I have never gone home even trying to fantasize about my wife being the woman I just saw, I just came o home horny, and wished I would have watched her dancing like that. A tip for women, I know most don't like it, but when your husband or boyfriend brings home that scanty thing, or harem type outfit fro you to ware do it and do it with pride! I have been married for almost 40 years to the same wonderful woman, and even though she thinks she would look ridiculous and not sexy in these things, truth be told no one could ever look as beautiful or as sexy in those outfits then you do to your man. I love seeing my wife, and enjoy seeing her as much or more today as I did when I first saw her naked. I would love to have her wear some of these things because she turns me on because I love her and her body completely. It does not matter that she has had children, or is a few pounds heavier, I see the beautiful woman I love and admire before me, and like that she turns me on more then the stripper in any club. I hope this helps a little, admirer of the natural woman, but love my wife!

I don't want my husband to go to a strip club. It's not because I think he will run off with a stripper, I just feel jealous at the idea of him ogling some other woman and getting a hard on. To me getting a lap dance is a form of sex.

I also think the whole thing is kind of sleazy and would have less respect for a guy who went to strip clubs often.

I think a guy should be willing to respect his girlfriend's feelings on this issue. It's not that going to a strip club means he's more attracted to the other women, but if it makes you feel jealous and hurt, he should be willing to not do it.

Instead of trying to convince yourself that you should trust him and it doesn't mean anything to him, I think you should respect your own feelings. You don't want him to do this. You don't have to get over that. We are not borg or Vulcans or androids who decide what is logical to feel.

I don't know if going to a strip club makes men more likely to cheat or not. I think generally hanging out in bars or with guys who cheat does make a man more likely to cheat. Opportunity and temptation can affect behavior. On the other hand, how many women are hanging out in strip clubs looking for a guy? In the end, I think the smartest thing would probably be to skip it if you're trying to stay faithful.

This is a really nice reply. :) If I really believed that all men feel this way, I wouldn't let it get me down when my guy goes to strip clubs. Unfortunately, I think most men act like jerks when they are at strip clubs (and yes, I have been to them), and I know that the "no touch" rule is broken waaaaay more than men will ever admit.

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