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Should I leave my "comfortable" guy for my forever crush?
Okay, so I'm in a sticky situation. I've been dating this guy (we'll call him Jack) for 9 months. I didn't want to date him, at the beginning. I'm not super physically attracted to him. But I had just had my heart broken, and he was really nice to me. He had just gotten out of an 8 year relationship. Well, after like 4 months, he got comfortable enough to stop being a super sweet guy. He's rude now, doesn't try to impress my family, doesn't clean up after himself. But he loves me, and I can be comfortable with him. I was willing to keep trying, because he's so in love with me, but I'm facing a problem now.
My mom and I were having a discussion one day, and I didn't think it would amount to anything. I'm about to be 20, and since I was like 15, I've had a crush on the dishwasher at her job (we'll call him Kevin). I told mom that, and she went and told Kevin. Kevin's a sweetheart. He's like, shy, but so nice and polite to me. He apologizes if he even bumps my leg or something. Jack will pass gas right against my leg and laugh about it. Yesterday, mom comes home and tells me that Kevin offered to smoke with us if we go to his house. So we went over there, and hung out for a while. I forgot how bad I'm attracted to him. He told my mom, "She's so pretty!" and "She wouldn't like me", to which my mom assured him that I'd said the opposite.
My issue is, I do love and care about Jack. I just think I deserve better. He works at McD's and doesn't try to do any better. But on the other hand, Kevin's had the same dishwashing job for years. He talks about wanting to do something better though. I don't want to break Jack's heart. He lives with me at my parent's house (which I'm also tired of, because I want a man who wants to take care of me). His whole family is like 8 hours away, so he'll make me feel bad about kicking him out. But that's the biggest problem:
I don't know how to ask him to leave, or how to break up with him. Or even if I should. I'm just, torn up and confused about it right now.
I need advice, please?