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Should I keep seeing him?

Published on March 13, 2012 by nina_d

We have known each other as friends. He recently told me that he likes me a lot, ever since we met. He asked me out, and I accepted because I wanted to give him a chance.

3 months later, after a few dates and more gatherings with mutual friends, I can tell that he is crazy about me. His actions show it. He told me that he is interested in a serious relationship, even marriage if things go well.

This is the problem: I like him, but not much as a boyfriend. I don't feel sexually attracted to him, and there are no butterflies in my stomach when I see him, even when he kisses me. I've told him about this, and he was very understanding. I gave it some time to see if this changes. It didn't change at all. He has so many good qualities, but for some reason, I am not looking forward to seeing him.

Also, our conversation doesn't flow and it often gets awkward and boring. Both of us talk a lot, just not with each other. I feel like there is nothing to talk about. This has never happened with any of the guys I've dated before.

I feel like I am wasting his time. I understand how hard it is to find someone who I can feel comfortable with, who is reliable, patient, and knows everything about me - all my bad qualities, even all the drama from my past relationships, and yet, he is still crazy about me and wants to have a relationship with me. I understand that there are more important things than physical attraction, because it fades over time. But something stops me from wanting to be with him. What would you advice me to do? Should I keep seeing him? Thank you in advance!

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You can't force it. If you don't want to be with him, don't waste his time. You can list his good qualities all day, but if the feeling isn't there, it does no good.

You are forcing yourself,you are trying so hard to be in this relationship.Its a good thing to give ourselves a chance,however somethings you cant force.For example,someone can be as perfect as a human can be,and many people can say "he is the perfect guy", but it doesnt mean he is the perfect guy for you,he can be for everyone else but not you. I think you need to be honest with yourself,find the reason why you want this to work so hard,and figure out if its a good reason enough.In my opinion,you shouldnt force yourself,i am sure there is someone out there for you.

I have been in the same situation and i must say its a hard one bt anyways all i can say is.the diggs u that right his mr perfect bt wil u have fun with someone who understands u and does everything u want. Its all about love and what u are doing is unfair cause u feel pitty for him, thats why u are tryin to do that. Just tell him the truth u are like brother and sister. Its a sisterly love wat u feel and it cant turn to be the love u think it can.

I have been in the same situation and i must say its a hard one bt anyways all i can say is.the diggs u that right his mr perfect bt wil u have fun with someone who understands u and does everything u want. Its all about love and what u are doing is unfair cause u feel pitty for him, thats why u are tryin to do that. Just tell him the truth u are like brother and sister. Its a sisterly love wat u feel and it cant turn to be the love u think it can.

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