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Should i go back to my ex bf again or not ? m feeling upset?

Published on March 24, 2014 by sania

I was continuing freindship with my ex bf after two years of breakup but i still love him , he seems he's moved on , only m stuck ( he left me n he broke all his promises of marying me as his parents didn't agree for him to marry me). When few weeks back i stopped texting n chasing him ( i always kept chasing him but all in vain , he didn't value me) , he text me n says if i am ignoring him then i need to tell him clearly n he got angry.I said i am not n y he wants me to talk to him , he said oh ok he has got his answer now. Now he has started ignoring me badly on fb , on texts etc , he does reply to my texts but uninterstingly. His rudeness , ignorance is killing me now ... what i do ?? Leave him forever ?

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Dear sania,

It sounds like the relationship is already over, so you can't leave him forever if you've both already exited the relationship. It sounds like his behavior is selfish and immature. Why would you want to keep in touch with someone like that? Also, why would you want to be friends with an ex you're still in love with but whom you already know won't be able to give you the relationship and marriage you want? I know you think that by keeping him in your life maybe your love for him will cause him to change his mind and you guys will get back together.

I'm telling you you're only deluding yourself and keeping yourself emotionally enslaved to him. Tell me Sania, what are you worth? Are you not worth more than someone who won't marry you and breaks promises and now ignores you? Do you not believe you're worthy and capable of finding someone else who loves you fully and completely and will give you all of those things without the games?

You cannot force this guy to stay. He has clearly made his decision regarding the relationship and it is you who has had a hard time wrapping your head around the fact that it is over. I know it's extremely hard and painful to deal with, but you've got to let go of him. Delete and block him off of your social media pages, block his email and delete his number. You need to free yourself and only by completely cutting ties with him will you be able to free your mind and your heart from him. As long as you keep him in your life in any capacity, even if it's just facebook stalking him, you are not allowing yourself to move on.

Accept his decision and that you're worth more than his immaturity. Surround yourself with good friends and do activities that help you laugh and feel good about yourself. Eventually the pain will lessen and go away. But do not waste your time on someone who has made it clear they do not care for you or about you. Don't play his games with him either. Move on and stop contacting him.

Dear sania,

It sounds like the relationship is already over, so you can't leave him forever if you've both already exited the relationship. It sounds like his behavior is selfish and immature. Why would you want to keep in touch with someone like that? Also, why would you want to be friends with an ex you're still in love with but whom you already know won't be able to give you the relationship and marriage you want? I know you think that by keeping him in your life maybe your love for him will cause him to change his mind and you guys will get back together.

I'm telling you you're only deluding yourself and keeping yourself emotionally enslaved to him. Tell me Sania, what are you worth? Are you not worth more than someone who won't marry you and breaks promises and now ignores you? Do you not believe you're worthy and capable of finding someone else who loves you fully and completely and will give you all of those things without the games?

You cannot force this guy to stay. He has clearly made his decision regarding the relationship and it is you who has had a hard time wrapping your head around the fact that it is over. I know it's extremely hard and painful to deal with, but you've got to let go of him. Delete and block him off of your social media pages, block his email and delete his number. You need to free yourself and only by completely cutting ties with him will you be able to free your mind and your heart from him. As long as you keep him in your life in any capacity, even if it's just facebook stalking him, you are not allowing yourself to move on.

Accept his decision and that you're worth more than his immaturity. Surround yourself with good friends and do activities that help you laugh and feel good about yourself. Eventually the pain will lessen and go away. But do not waste your time on someone who has made it clear they do not care for you or about you. Don't play his games with him either. Move on and stop contacting him.

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