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Should I give my ex another chance, or move on?
My ex-boyfriend and I were together for 3 years. From the beginning to the end, he had a pretty serious drinking problem. The problem wasn't how often he drank, but that he couldn't drink without getting absolutely wasted. And when that happened, my normally very sweet, quiet, non-aggressive artist boyfriend would turn into a complete ass. He would say and do the dumbest things, pick fights, completely embarrass himself (and me), pee the bed...the list goes on. The next day, he was always very sorry and everyone always excused and forgave his behavior, partly because a good portion of his friends are the same way and think that this is completely normal. Well, twice during the course of our relationship, he got completely trashed and fooled around another girl. Both times he admitted it to me and did everything he could to try to show me how sorry he was, but the second time was the last straw, and we broke up. It was very hard for me, because aside from his drinking, we were pretty blissfully happy together, and I've never felt the way I felt about him for anyone else. Now, its been a few months, and my ex is still trying his hardest to get me back. He has quit drinking, and is beginning to cut out the friends in his life that are a bad influence. He has also started going to a psychiatrist to work on his issues with self-control. I believe that he really wants to change and grow, but obviously, that doesn't take back his past indiscretions. I'm also concerned that he could be really gung-ho about all of this now, but after we get comfortable, he could fall back into his old pattern. I want to wait it out a bit to give both of us some time to figure things out, but I'm considering the possibility of giving him another chance in the future. However, I'm concerned. How do I know if this is actually the right choice, or just me holding on to the past? Is it worth trying to move forward with a relationship that would require a lot of work and a lot of risk, or should I just cut my losses and try to move on?