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Sexless in my relationship
My boyfriend of a year this month is having issues with his desire for sex. The past 3 months we have had sex a total of 3 times. This has really created a distance between us and has caused me to resent him. Of course we have other issues, and yes we have talked about this issue and agree that SEX is crucial for us to move forward-yet he does not initiate it on his own. He is stressed out about things in his personal life, which I understand, but when I see him on a regular basis, and there is no romance and no sex it affects me tremendously and my ability to not harbor negative feelings. We have talked and talked and talked to no avail...I am one foot in and one foot out the door. Is there a way for us to get past this issue? It has become a very uncomfortable situation between us and I do admit, my approach in discussing the issue has not been the best and he claims, has made it harder for him to initiate anything. But, I feel that my self esteem has taken a big hit. We love each other and enjoy one another's company, but with this MAJOR issue, it is causing more arguments as I seem to only focus on the negatives as my needs and expectations are not being met. I believe that the SEX would help alleviate some of this tension between us but I can't force him to want it or do anything on his own. I am sick of talking about the issue and am now looking for some action on his part. Please advise.