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Selfish or not?
My husband and I have been together for 7 years, married for 1 year. We have 2 children together and he has 2 other children outside of our marriage. we have really hit a difficult place in our relationship, primarily steming from finances. I have been the financial provider our entire relationship. In the beginning working was not a priority for my husband, however he has changed. His past mistakes are currently affecting him being able to get and keep a job. We are struggling a great deal the little money that I make is not enough for us to survive comfortably. We're just barely getting by. Now my husband is to the point that he is desperate to make money so he can take care of all of the things that he has to resolve, both in and out of our household. He constantly tells me I don't understand how he feels because I'm not in his shoes, and I have a job so I have something while he has nothing. He's not concerned with my feelings on our relationship and to me he's not concerned about the distance his issues are putting between us. He just says he'll do what he has to do and if I don't like it so be it. It's like he doesn't understand the concept of MARRIAGE. He thinks he's dealing with his issues on his own, and there's no chance to come together and deal with them together. I'm feeling neglected, but if I tell him that, then he thinks I'm selfish and says it's not about me, it's about him because HE'S the one with all the problems, but he fails to realize it's affecting the both of us. Then he tries to blame me for everything that goes wrong and says I speak negativity into his life. If I keep catering to his needs and his feelings, what do I have for myself and my kids?