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premature ejaculations.Help! Cannot last in bed

Published on June 2, 2012 by mwasagwa

when I have intercourse, almost all the times, I end up ejaculating as soon as I have penetration and therefore losing erection.I cannot last for more than five minutes.I'm in my late tenties and the problem was there when I first became sexually active my mid twenties.I have talked to my doctor who prescribed viagra n cialis but both did not help me.Testerone test were carried out but the doctor said they were normal.what could be my problem.How can I solve it. Allan


Hi Allen -

You're OK; in fact, maybe fortunate. Some men are very sensitive and multi-orgasmic, like women get to enjoy. Don't be bothered by this when you can just expect it and be ready to go again in 10 minutes. You will no-doubt be able to go longer the second and third times in a day, or session.

I'm actually a Life Coach, so this is my "educated" opinion; I have this opinion after obtaining a bachelor degree in Health and working as an STD officer years back (disease intervention, studied with the CDC) and speaking to many people of their personal sexual habits, experiences, reactions and having to find out the answers to the many questions that come up in those kind of conversations, in the role of the health professional - and people just seem to feel comfortable with me.

So accept it, be OK with it, get that first one out of the way, and keep going, my friend. If you feel compelled, feel free to let me know if this worked as a solution for you. Best wishes for your resolution!

You're not alone. Ejaculating before one wants to is perhaps the most common male sexual concern. In studies on college campuses, something like over 95% of college men worry about it.

The only thing that confuses me is that you say you can last five minutes. Which if you're talking about intercourse is a pretty respectable length of time. But maybe you're including foreplay.

Start with a good book on PE so you're up to date on what can be done. My favorite is Michael Metz and Barry McCarthy - Coping with Premature Ejaculation -- paperback on Amazon. One virtue of this book is its realism -- it even discusses (towards the end) how to integrate sex therapy and medication for PE. I find many of the men I treat for PE need the combination of medication and sex therapy to get the result they want.

For more on the state of the art of PE treatment, see my article "The Latest News About Premature Ejaculation"

You can find a sex therapist in your area at or