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Possible reconciliation with my Ex

Published on October 3, 2012 by karen marie

Long story short: started dating a wonderful man in the spring time. Found out that he was involved with some one else-- fast forward 6 months later/today and he has moved to a new city, got a new job, and left his pervious relationship. I had invited him to get together about 2 weeks ago and he hasn't responded. All he has sent me was a new phone number.

Throughout everything we keep in touch. He sends me a message about every 2 weeks just telling me what he has been up to. I usually end up making the conversation tense by asking him when he wants to meet. He did say recently that he does want to meet up if he is free soon.

I do speak with other men and have dated other men these past months but I just really want my ex back. The relationship started out great as we thoroughly enjoyed each others company and we both had genuine feelings for each other. I don't want that to be thrown away.

I have a lot of things to keep me occupied- I live in a country where I don't speak the language so I'm busy studing that, my work keeps me busy and I do painting on the side. Still at the end of the day there are many things I want to share with him... I deeply miss him.

What can I do?

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Enjoying each other's company doesn't mean anything when the man is a cheater. When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time. Those are his ethics. Why would you think he'd be faithful this time around? You need to work on buillding a postive self esteem if this is the type of man you think you deserve. Read articles on the internet about this, or get some books from the library. Every woman should have a must have list and a dealbreaker list when dating.

Even if he didn't cheat, the second problem is that he's not making any effort to see you. When a woman has to chase a man, he's just not that into her. Cut the man loose if they possess dealbreakers such as cheating, addictions to porn or narcotics, mentally and physically abusive, etc. Don't be desperate and settle for garbage. You are the treasure and a man has to be worthy of you to stay in your life. Good luck.

As much as you miss him and want him back, he's got to want to get back together with you too. You might ask him if he is open to getting back together again so you know-- instead of having to guess based on his comments. If he is not interested in getting back together again with you, then you need to decide if you can be okay staying in contact with him or if it would help to put some distance between the two of you so that you can heal and move on.

Best Wishes, Susie and Otto

Dear friend, You should have an honest conversation with him and simply tell him how you feel, in return he should treat you the same way. If the feelings are not mutual, maybe is the time for you to move one and give yourself another chance to find a true love. Do not procrastinate for a long time, just be yourself and talk to him. Good luck, Yours truly AstroCoach

He's not interested in you anymore. He's telling you nicely in oblique ways, but you aren't picking up his hints.

Accept it, read some quotes about unrequited love, have a good cry, get your hair done and move forward with your hobbies and interests.

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