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Published on September 18, 2013 by butterfly456

So I've known this guy about a month.....He took me to lunch and then we talked in the afternoon on the phone. Later on he called me at night and wanted to have phone sex with me. Into the conversation he cut me off and said that he couldn't continue the phone sex conversation and said goodnight. The next day he was cold and said he couldn't talk but would call me later. Well he has not called or texted me since. What is going on here...by the way I have not slept with this guy.....

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Hello butterfly456,

First let me compliment you for not sleeping with him after dating him for a month. It can take awhile to get to know someone well enough to allow them into your body. And it's so smart to wait until you're sure of your feelings for him and his feelings for you.

Phone sex can be a very fun activity with someone you care about and who cares about you. If you've already been intimate you know all the right things to say that will definitely turn the other person on.

You didn't mention why you agreed to have phone sex with him that night and I'm curious. Was it because he asked? Is this something you've done with him before? Was it to make him like you? Something most women don't know is especially when it comes to sex, between consenting adults, the woman’s always in the driver's seat. She always gets to set the pace of; when to have sex, what type of sex, how often, how long, etc.

The key for the woman is to know what she needs and wants generally for her relationship and specifically about the sexual part her relationship. This is a wonderfully empowered way for a woman to feel.

And because a good man already knows the woman has the power when it comes to sex in the relationship he’s ready and willing to hear how he can please her. And pleasing her gives him an even greater sense of being a powerful man.

I understand how confusing his behavior is and I hear you would like to know what happened.

There could be a variety of reasons this man acted the way his did. Has he acted like this before? Could mean someone walked into the room where he was. Do you know if he lives alone? Acting cold the next day and not calling or texting sounds like he’s embarrassed or got caught.

He might tell you or you might never know. I’d like to suggest for the moment to ask yourself what you truly need and want in a relationship and how many of those needs and wants he fills. It can make the waiting easier if he fits most of them or the reason to move on if he doesn’t.

Let me know what happens. Christine@ThePerfectCatch.com Your Tango Expert

I'd ask him, plainly, what happened. And if his answer seems sincere, great. But it also sounds like it could be a little fishy. Good luck.

I find it a little disturbing that someone you haven't known that long wants to have phone sex. Sex is an important part of a relationship, too important to begin it is such a casual manner. Phone sex can be a fun part of a committed, caring relationship, but I think this sounds like trouble to me. If you do still like him and want to get to know him better, tell him that but also that you would rather not start your physical relationship with phone sex.

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