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Paranoid or normal?

Published on January 10, 2014 by claauuv

So, I was seeing this guy for about two months and I just ended things last week. When we first started talking he was pretty clingy and would call me three to four times a day but he barely knew me. He would never pressure me and was a very nice guy. Never aggressive or threatening in any way, just moving quickly for my pace. He would make it sound like we were gonna be together forever, going on vacation together and our future when I was nowhere ready for that. That being said, I told him from the beginning I wasn't sure what I wanted, so I wouldn't lead him on. A little background on him, when he was younger he did have a bit of a troubled past and was involved with the wrong people. When I ended things he was very nice about it and understood, but I can't seem to get the thought out of my head that he might be following me or out to get me. He told me he would always think about me and alway have a place for me in his heart, that he was falling in love with me. I mean it was barely two months! Is it normal for me to feel like this, or am I just paranoid?! He is also 7 years older than me, if that makes a difference in the scenario. Any advice would be very helpful because I feel like I'm always looking over my shoulder....thanks so much :)


I think it depends on how he reacted to your breakup. If it felt like an amicable split (he was not pleased, but not unreasonably so), then I wouldn't put too much thought into his past. If, during the breakup, he threatened you or said anything that put up a serious red flag, then I would possibly reach out for help. Your safety is important, but it doesn't sound like he has been aggressive to you or threatened you.