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once a relationship becomes "open" is there anyway of going back?
I have been living with my bf for 8 months, im 38 & he is 29. Recently it has come to my attention that he has been starting relationships with women on line and carrying it over to his phone with calls text messages and sending pics back n forth. It really bothers me. I was married when i was younger and divorced by 30. I have 2 kids and i am at a place in life where i only want to be with 1 man. When i confronted him about his secrets he came clean and told me that i was his longest relationship he has had with out cheating. He really wants to have sex with someone else to see if what we have is really what he wants. He encouraged me to date also. The thing is he has been talkin to this 1 lady ( she is my age with 5 kids) so he already knows who he wants to be with. I dont really have many problems meeting guys but I can promise that if I sleep with someone else I will probably want to move on. I dont think I can be with him knowing what he wants to do because it feels like he doesnt love me. I always thought that in a monogomous relationship where you really love someone you dont do those things because they are wrong - you dont say ok lets try this and if it turns out bad ill be back with you and i know i want to marry you - or if it goes well maybe just need to sleep around some more to get it out of my system. - I am really confused. Nothing has happened yet but I think that emotional relationships can be harder to deal with then sexual. I have been trying to not let it bother me but it really does. He is hiding his cell phone - sleeping with it! it is kinda getting crazy. I dont think he cares about who i talk to or what i do.