my bf had a baby with another women and didnt tell me who it was. i found out it was his brothers ex-wife. after finding this out he said it was in the past and has nothing to do with us. the baby was born in dec 2010and the mother and baby moved away when the baby turned 4 to 6 months of age. i met my bf in July 2011. anyway, this information i found on my own. i dont think he understands the whole concept of it affecting me and our
It affects me because there was no paternity test done and if the women can comes back from Florida and demands my boyfriend to share custody. If the child is his, i found pics and it looks Arab not white, then he will do the right thing. I too will be part of this childs life and will have to deal with the mother. If I dont know the whole story and dont know about her in particular I will have the feeling of being in the dark....lied to. The weird thing is the mother was his brothers wife at the time. I found this out on my own....not good. I think...will he cheat on me? Why not tell me when I ask about it? Why hide the truth? This is dishonest and not good for our relationship.
He probably doesn't want to talk about it because it forces him to remember that he betrayed his brother. You are looking too far into the future and way to much into "IF". If he doesn't want to talk about it, he doesn't have to. If you don't want to be with someone that doesn't feel comfortable telling you everything, you may want to break up with him. As far as the other issues, you may want to cross those bridges when (and if) you get to them.