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not over ex?
I am 52 years old women with 2 small kids (12, 13) and I have been dating a 51 years old man with 2 small kids (8,11) for over 5 months. We meet once a week and we've been intimate for a while. We have extremely busy life with our kids and work and I we have great attraction toward each other. Also, the fact that we are older with little kids makes our schedules and interests similar. Our past marriages ended very similarly, with my ex having 5 years secret affair with his assistant (not that secret, just not admitted) while my babies were little and things were tough. Our marriage officially ended 7 years ago. My boyfriend's ex wife left him 5 years ago with his little kids, for her new boyfriend. She just moved out and left him and kids. They officially divorced 2 years ago. We both have good relationship with our exes, to make life of our kids and families easier. I just read one of your article about how to recognize if our partner is over his ex. I have hard time to talk about his ex with him, he doesn't have a lot of nice things to say about her. It isn't surprising. What was surprising to me is, that his wife now has a different boyfriend that she left with originally and my partner seems to be jealeous of him. I find it strange, since I don't care one bit about my exes girlfriends, I was even friends with his last one. (I was angry and upset about the one that caused the breakup of my marriage) I just don't know what to think. On one hand he seems very loving and interested in developing a deeper relationship, on the other hand, he sometime seems like he is too scared to let his guard down. On the other hand, I am in a very good place in my life. I don't need anybody if i don't find a high quality man. That gives me a good, calm approach and openness toward my new relationship. But I expect the same from the other side. My problem is, that I am not sure if I should address all this. He might be moving toward the same place (attitude)where I am, just the time since his divorce is shorter then mine, so everything is more sensitive. Or is it just my excuse for him?