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Neither Incorporates Me Into His Life

Published on May 13, 2013 by suzyqsunshine

I am dating two guys and neither seem to want to incorporate me into their lives. The first guy I've been seeing on and off for about he a year. He is long distance (5 hours away in a different state) and neither he nor his relatives or friends are local to me. The closest person he could introduce me to is his sister who lives about 2 hours from me. His children are adults who he says have told him they don't want anything to do with any women he dates since divorcing his mother years ago. The second guy is local and I've been dating him for about 3 months. His only local relative is his son who is in kindergarten. Local guy's other relatives live in a different country. He says his reason for not introducing me to his son is that the boy's mother creates instability by introducing him to a revolving door of guys she dates. Local guy did not marry the mother of his child and has never been married. Neither guy ever mentions any particular friends who are involved in their lives. What I want is an exclusive relationship with one man and to build a life together with that man. I feel badly about dating both guys, but can't bring myself to be exclusive with either since neither seems to offer the relationship I want by incorporating me into their lives. What should I do? Thanks.


Its so ignorant of you to use the word "Incorporate" to imply your being left out of these men life for no good reason. What if i told you from a males perspective they both may sense your "loose" without morals, so why are you acting surprised they already have figured you out.Currently your unable to date one guy at a time, but now your judging both men(REALLY??) You were apparently having sex with both men during the same time period. You mentioned you can't be trusted because you can't be exclusive, so don't expect men to allow you into their children or families life because right now your just not worth incorporating. Trust me, the only game your playing is the one your playing against yourself. Guys know loose women and they allowed you to fool yourself not them. Cause if they esteemed you as a truthful reliable woman they would surely give you connections to their family or tell their family to contact you because they are proud to let people know you exist. Since that didn't happen, I guess they got the last laugh and you played yourself by being