am 33 years old and i have been with women 15 years of that 33 . Untill Sept 29 2009. I have known this guy for years. when ever we were at partys he would always follow me around and flirt with me.one night it just happen. we agreed to be fwb.now its 4 months later and i like him alot. he say he cares but he cant give me what i want now.yes he also has another fwb.But says he puts more time into me.we are very open with each other.we like the same things are birthdays are a day apart.we make each other laugh.he knows when somthing is wrong with me and wont leave me alone untill he finds out what.were always calling and texting each other.i feel like he care but i want more.what do i do. oh yea and the sex is the best i ever had :)
You really only have two options here because you've already made it clear that you want more from the relationship, but he's made it clear he can't give you what you want. You can either accept that he's not as into you as you are into him and continue your FWB relationship that will ultimately lead to heartache, or you can accept that he doesn't want a committed relationship with you and move on. Find someone who can give you what you want. There is nothing you can do to get him to like you or want you more than just a FWB. These types of situations are never a good idea because one person will always develop feelings for the other. It sounds like you're trying to fool yourself into thinking this relationship is more than what it is "he has another FWB but he puts more time into you". Let's get real about this. He's using both of you for sex, plain and simple. He doesn't want to commit to either of you and has made it clear that he isn't going to. I don't think anyone can actually be really happy knowing full-well that they have to share the person they have feelings for with someone else. What kind of relationship is that? But you pretty much started out your relationship as using each other for sex so it's not like you're being mislead by him. Figure out what you really want, know that you can't get it from this guy and move on.
Oh the whole FWB into an LTR situation. It seems pretty hopeless. You have to be willing to draw the line and stop the benefits and demand more. Of course you risk losing him, but how long can you continue this fake relationship?