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Published on November 13, 2013 by dezzyjordan16

For the wedding I am planning I have already gotten most of my ideas together but is it normal for my fiancé to be doing little to no work. I try to talk to him and see how he feels but instead he just tells me that I should do what I want, he wants to make me happy and make sure this day is something special...

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Dear Dezzyjordan16,

Congratulations on your wedding!

This is quite normal. Guys learn early on that planning on a wedding is a girl's dream and that getting involved only leads to grief and drama, which is true in many cases.

Not to say you don't want his opinion, but to be honest, I think most of us aren't looking for our guy to actually have an opinion, we just want validation or approval for our choices. It is something most of us have been planning since we were young girls.

Try not to take offense to it. He's just trying to let you do your thing and not get into trouble for saying or doing the wrong thing. If it really bothers you, just explain how you feel. Let him know that you are interpreting his lack of involvement in the details as it not being as important to him. You can assign him tasks that make him feel like he will not fail in pleasing you, but will also take some of the weight off your shoulders. It is important to him, it's just commonly understood among guys that planning weddings is a girl thing.

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