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My boyfriend's kids say it's them or me
My BF's ex left him 3 years ago. He had custody of their 2 teenage daughters and preteen son. The ex, let's call her Skank, was cheating on my BF and had nothing to do with the kids for the first year while she was partying and sleeping around. She never left town, she just wanted to be free to have fun. After a year of this, she started spending time with the kids again (as in letting them do whatever they want at her house and buying them whatever they want.)
BF and I were casual friends at the time. The 2nd year after Skank left, he and I became close friends while I dated other men; it wasn't until after he had been divorced a year that we started dating.
Skank has been telling her kids that she left my BF because he was having an affair with me which is a load of crap. She has tried numerous times to win him back, and claims that if it weren't for me they'd still be married. BF's daughters are emotionally blackmailing him to give me up or give them up.
So far, he has always chosen me, but I think he's starting to lose heart. BF and I spend a lot of time together, but only when the kids are in school or at their mom's so it isn't a question of them not liking me or me taking time away from their dad. In fact, I was like an aunt to them when they were growing up (Skank and I had been friends since we were kids and our extended families were close.) Skank even wanted her kids to spend more time with mine but now she's poisoning them into hating my kids and me. The girls lie and are manipulative like their mom. One already moved in with Skank and the other is always trying to do the same. So far, this has been the best relationship my BF or I have ever had but I'm worried the girls will ruin it.
Does anyone who has been in this situation have advice as to what worked and what didn't?