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My boyfriend wont talk to me, does this mean its over?

Published on March 25, 2010 by blufairy27

  It was a very stupid argument that is still lasting to this day.   The week of spring break my boyfriend came down to see me.  I had never been so excited.  We had out arguments here and there.  The day after he arrived he stayed up all night playing online computer games...this wouldnt have bothered me as much but I hadn't seen him in about 3 months.  I was upset and told him this and he shrugged it off and said ok.  Then we had little tiffs here and there but mainly the week was going good.  Then on his last night here we went out and drank and had a good time.  
When we came home, thats when it all happened.  I believe we were both drunk and I also had to keep an eye on him to make sure he wasn't drinking so much, he has a tendency to go over board a lot.  I got upset that he ate my cookies that I bought for myself but I also bought him a box so I did not know why he did that.  I know it was childish of me to act that way but for some reason it made me a little upset and I told him....But he just kept laughing it off.  Then he kept opening up the windows in the apartment.  It had just finished snowing that day and it was so darn cold outside and I told him I can't take that.  Its too cold, so then he went into the bed room and opened the window in there.  
 He told me that I had the heater on and I said yes because its cold and he said he was hot.  So, I turned it down to 70.  But he left the window in the room open and so a layed down on the couch.  He got upset and said your going to sleep there.  I told him the truth, that I wasn't going to sleep in there. Its too cold.  He started to cuse and  yell and say all this dumb stuff.  I feel like he didnt care how I felt.  We could have compromised.  He went to bed, then I decided to be the bigger person here and go to sleep with him.  When I got into bed I felt him roll over to face the other side.  I got so upset that I felt the tears well up in my eyes.  He then got up slammed the window and left to the living room and opened them in there.

I got up and told him why he was doing this, he said that he didnt want to hear me cry and stuff. I told him that I was tired of this and grabbed his stuff and told him this is how you wont hurt me, and I put it next to him. I went back to bed then I heard him on the phone, he was calling a cab. I told him I would take him and not to be a baby.. He told me to get away from him and to go to sleep alone. That he didn't want to be near me.
All this over a damn window. I couldnt' beleve his reactions. Then when I did take him to the airport I asked him if he was still mad at me. he said he wasn't but that he didn't know if he wanted to be with me or not. That was 5 days ago and I haven't heard from him since. Ive text and left letters and he still wont answer me. Ive a tired, ive appologized and nothing. I know he had emotional issues.....he's very closed person. I dont know if it was being in the army or what...but I hate feeling like this . Like not knowing what is going on here.....how can I go on with my life If I dont know what is happening here. How could he have gotten so upset over a stupid window thing...I was willing to compromize.

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It sounds to me Hon that you are a bit more mature than Him, and I think He likes to pout a bit, so my answer to you is call His bluff, as I feel you can do a heck of a lot better, so don't settle for His bad behavior, if He doesn't want you for who you are dump Him, as there is someone far better for you out there! It's a big world go fishing, and I bet you will come up in the end feeling pretty good for doing so! xo Danzilla.

I think there's definitely something else going on here besides the window. The window might be the tangible excuse for the argument, but really it's about whatever emotional/communication issues he's having. I think you've done your part by letting him know that you are sorry and want to work things out. If he chooses to ignore you then there's nothing else that you can do but accept that the relationship is over because he doesn't view as worth working through and move on. Unfortunately, you can't force someone to communicate with you if they refuse. Clearly it isn't fair for him to leave you hanging, but don't feel like you have to wait around for him to decide if he wants to take the time to get back to you. 5 days is kind of a long time.

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