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My boyfriend and I split up after 7 months together. We were really in love.

Published on June 28, 2010 by kalisha

We were together over the winter months and were very much in love and spent most of our time together. He has alot of close male friends and they hang out together alot at a shop very close to his home and he likes to go there in his spare time. Once Spring arrived he told me that he was going to spent most of his weekends golfing so that meant that we wouldn't be seeing much of each other at all since I work on Saturdays. I am off on Sundays and Mondays but it sounded like he was going to spent all his time with his buddies instead of me. I was upset by this but didn't show it to him and one night we went out to a stag and doe. He spent most of the night with his buddies outside smoking ciggarettes and chatting away with people he knew from the Stag and Doe. I sat inside by myself most of the night with people I didn't know and didn't dance one song. I was very uncomfortable and I was furious by the end of the night we had a major blow out. We actually broke up the very next day. We didn't see each other for almost a month only once and tried to patch things up over the telephone and I thought we were finally getting together. He again became to busy to see me and was acting aloof about making time for a meeting.Almost like he was playing a game with me. It was like he was stringing me along but wanted to know where I was and what I was doing for my spare time. I finally lost it after not seeing him for so long and not being a priority in his life. He was sick on his birthday and the next day too busy to see me again. I told him I was done over the telephone and haven't contacted him in over two weeks. He did call the next night after I lost it on the phone but hasn't called since then. I don't want to seem like a love sick woman but I am heartbroken. We were talking marriage and moving in with each other at one point. What should I do. He is 39 years old and I am 46 years old. I love him but I feel that he puts his friends and activities first in his life. Should I forget about him and move on? He is very stubborn and I thought he would have called me by now. I really miss him in my life. Should I give up and move on or do I have to be the one to contact him. I thought of sending him a letter but I don't know. I don't want to call because I know he will be cold with me and might reject me. Any info would be appreciated.

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First of all, I'm sorry about your relationship ending. When we fall in love, we hope that it will last forever. Unfortunately, more relationships end prior to marriage. I have a saying, "Every relationship serves a purpose, but is limited." Be happy for the first 6 months of your relationship and focus on what you learned from it. Being lower on the totem pole than golfing and his friends can lead to depression. It's time to move on and be open to the possibilities of meeting someone new. He just isn't treating you well, so why should you sign up for another 7 month term?

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