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My boyfriend and his ex wife just started talking, what to do?

Published on September 8, 2012 by shauniec

Yesterday he told me that him and his ex wife started speaking again and it honestly broke my heart when he told me, cause she left him for the guy shes with now and bout to break up with and I was there to make him realize there is light at the end of the tunnel. I don't trust her because its just weird how shes on the verge of breaking up with her boyfriend and all of a sudden she wants to talk to Jacob and hes stupid enough to talk to her. He also failed to mention me to her, its obvious she didn't care about him when she told Jacob about her boyfriend.. My heart is in two places, I love this guy dearly and i want to forget this crap and just move on with him but at the same time I want to walk away because the big mistake was letting her back into his life after she broke his heart. 


Keep your focus on you and your boyfriend. He's got to make a choice about whether he wants to be with you or go back to her. Putting the blame on his ex-wife for him choosing to talk with her again and not to mention you to her isn't going to help. Ask him to make his choice and, if he chooses to be with you, create some clear agreements about any future interactions he has with her.

Best Wishes, Susie and Otto

I talked to him and it seems like things are getting back to normal, I didn't want to come off bitchy or anything but I felt like I had to just so he can understand how threaten and worried I feel by her. The only thing I asked my boyfriend to do was to tell her about me before she starts to thimk he's still single,because that was the only thing that was truly bothering me. Thank you, I hope things go back to normal cause I really care about him.

Good news! Only 1% of couples who divorce remarry each other. So I think if you are patient, this too will pass.

Time to sit back, keep calm, stay happy and carefree, get busy on other things (work, hobbies, passions) and see what happens.

Don't be a doormat when it comes to relationships. Men actually respect women who don't put up with their BS. If they don't have children together, it's inappropriate and crossing boundaries for him to be speaking to her. I would have a talk with him about how you like to be in a relationship. Tell him that you don't communicate with exes or people who are romantically interested in you, and you want someone on the same page as you, who also doesn't talk to exes. If he cares about you, he won't do anything to jeapordize your relationship. If he's still hung up on her and continues to communicate with her after your talk, then why are you wasting your time? I hope he comes through for you.