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Masturbating and pleasure... at the same time.

Published on February 27, 2014 by avrilpark

Even when I'm the most horny, the moment I try to masturbate, or even think about masturbating I get turned off, and can't turn myself back on. If I'm naked, I automatically just can't turn myself on. If I have intents on masturbating, I can't do it. But when I'm fully clothed and not thinking about it at all, I can get turned on easily. Help? This is really frustrating :( P.S. I'm a female teen :)

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Hi avrilpark,

This is such a great question. And I'm very happy to give you some answers that I hope will be helpful.

Often masturbation can have all sorts of taboos and negative feeling associated with it. So, lots of people have limitations on how they might feel comfortable and not comfortable masturbating. So, it's possible that you were told negative messages about masturbating when you were young and so when you think about doing it those negative messages get in the way and cut off your sexual feelings. We are also often given negative messages about being naked. So, that type of message could also be cutting off your sexual feelings when you take your clothes off. So, it's very understandable that your sexual feelings come up when you're not consciously thinking about it.

I'm curious, do you think either of the negative messages (or something similar) I've suggested fit you? If so then I'd like to suggest you spend some time with a therapist or a coach to help you change those messages inside of you.

I truly believe masturbating is a normal and natural part of being a human being. And, especially for a women, learning (by yourself first) what pleases you sexually is essential for a happy healthy sexual relationship with a man. Because then you'll be able to explain and teach him what you like.

I'd love to hear what you think of my thoughts and to also hear what you decide to do next.

Coach Christine Christine@ThePerfectCatch.com

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