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Published on September 1, 2013 by mine209

my boyfriend constantly accuses me of lying and i'm not. is it because hes the one that lies about thing therefore thinks i am? and he has cheated on me in the past. witch i have let go. i have lied to him in the past 1 time, and when the truth came out i did not deny it, i came clean, admitted to lying and told the truth.

the lie was: he went to jail for about 3 days. the first afternoon he went a lot of people stopped by to see what had happened to him. one guy in particular was one that my boyfriend had tripped on. so on the way home from picking him up from jail we were talking & he asked me who all came over i started telling him & then he asked straight out if that one guy was there? i said "NO" but he was. my boyfriend's sister & husband was also staying with us those days & seen everyone that had came over, so the next nite the truth came out. there was about 5 people in the room including his sister so nothing happen between me & the other guy.

But still i lied, and i was not the one to tell him the truth. also my boyfriend has cheated on me, lied to me, sneaking around with other women. & i have people always telling me i seen your boyfriend driving around with some other women. but yet i'm the LIAR IN THE RELATIONSHIP! He says everything out of my mouth is lies. i don't know what to do to make him trust me or believe me?


Hi Mine209,

He accusing you of lying often means that he is trying to reflect his own behaviour on you, so he doesn't have to feel guilty about it. So yes, He is probaly lying to you about certain things. It is very hard to pursue a relationship in which you boyfriend has been cheating on you. The trust, no matter how hard you try, will never be the same as before. I think you still feel betrayed by him, and that serves you right. Remember that you are the bigger person by coming clean with him. Ofcourse it was not good of you to lie about him, but judging from me it was a little white lie to spare his feelings, but him cheating on you and fooling around with women is certainly a whole lot different and a WHOLE LOT WORSE.

I wouldn't want to be in a relationship when you can't (or don't, in your case) even trust one another. If you were my friend, I'd highly recommend you to break up with him.

He is a lying, cheating, two-timing, self-centered bastard and you deserve a whole lot better than him.

Remember: Once a cheater, Always a cheater. Good luck to you, I hope you will make the right desicion. Kind regards,