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love but not IN LOVE

Published on December 30, 2011 by kgear

I had a really bad ending on my last relationship we were engaged. I moved into another relationship a month after he ended it. I was very lonely and my new relationship seemed perfect. Now I'm starting to get mixed emotions about my man. We have together now 1 year. I do love and care about him. But it isn't the love i felt for my ex-fiance. I'm not sure what I see with the future. This man is very in love with me and has recently told me he could see us having a family together. I do not see that. I'm not sure what to do. Should I say in this relationship even thou my feelings aren't as strong as his? Or should we end it. Thanks for Any Advice

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Thank you very much for your feedback on this matter that is been bothering me for sometime. I've been honest with my current boyfriend about my feelings for him and the ex. The only reason my ex-fiancee and I didnt work out was because we were in a very long distance relationship he lived half way across the world we were together for 3 years and one day we both just snapped and he broke it off. He had a couple of chances to get back with me but he just never did saying he was scared of the long distance. He is now with someone else. I've tried reaching out when I was single to him but he just didn't want to reach back when I was reaching. It would always be when I was starting a new relationship he would reach for me. So I'm trying to get over this man and I think that is what is holding me back from the man I am dating now. He is my best friend we love doing all the same things but that spark that was there at the beginning is gone. So it might be time to move on till i'm completely healed from my last relationship. As you said its not fair to him. Especially since he is older than me and wants a family soon which I do not. Thank you for your insite. :)

Please don't be too quick to end this relationship. If you love and care about him, and you enjoy each other, you have the basic ingredients for a successful relationship. Make sure you're not running because you're afraid of the responsibilities of commitment and family. You two could develop the necessary skills to go through life together. No relationship is perfect at the beginning. Read my article "Couples Can Cooperate for Success" http://tinatessina.com/couples_cooperate.html and you'll find skills for turning your doubt into commitment.

Please don't be too quick to end this relationship. If you love and care about him, and you enjoy each other, you have the basic ingredients for a successful relationship. Make sure you're not running because you're afraid of the responsibilities of commitment and family. You two could develop the necessary skills to go through life together. No relationship is perfect at the beginning. Read my article "Couples Can Cooperate for Success" http://tinatessina.com/couples_cooperate.html and you'll find skills for turning your doubt into commitment.

I do love and care about him. But it's seeming like it is more on a friendship level then a romantic. I don't feel sparks anymore. I'm just curious if they will come back...or if manybe we need some time apart while I get over my past feelings they seem to be keeping me in the past. Thanks for you advice.

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