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It's NEVER his fault! PLEASE HELP NEED ANSWERS!!!

Published on May 6, 2012 by sewdrs37

No matter what I say or do its always me even if he tripped me and I fell he would be like I didn't do it he says it jokingly sometimes and when we are arguing no matter how calm. I Explain myself he doesnt care and if he knows I'm right he will just turn it around and say well I'm just a piece of s**t boyfriend I don't know what to do anymore I dont even want to talk to him anymore and he is always constantly joking EERYTHING is a joke exotically if he says something hateful that he know hurts my feelings I should just get over it cause it was a "joke"

PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!

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You aren't crazy. What you are experiencing has a name. It's called verbal and physical abuse. When a man "accidentally" trips you... When he blames you for everything, ridicules your ideas, interests, and hobbies, and punishes you by blowing up or trying to "teach you how to do it right," you are a domestic violence victim. (Women can be this way too; I'm not picking on men.)

First, you need to get educated about domestic violence. I would recommend looking at Patricia Evans' website (just do an internet search). Read some books on the topic.

Second, realize that you cannot do anything to fix him. Simply trying harder doesn't work.

Third, cut the ties. Cut the umbilical cord. Let him drift away. That is the only way he will ever get help: when the pain of losing you is worse than the fear of facing his problem.

Some abusers can change if they get therapy but many just go onto the next victim.

Best wishes.

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