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Is it worth making a marriage work after multiple affairs?
I found out my husband of 6 years had an affair. The affair was a few "one night stands" with the same woman. To add insult to injury he had an affair 4 years ago (right after the birth of our youngest child). Alcohol seems to be a common denominator in both situations. He has now quit drinking and wants to make the marriage work. I am at a loss because I don't know if he wants to stay because its easier than dealing with an ex and child support or if he really wants to make a go of it. I also don't want to give in and forgive him just to have it happen again. I feel like an idiot for having stayed the first time, and now I feel like I am stuck. I really love him, but I don't want to live the rest of my life being the woman that "looks the other way". He was married before to a woman that is older than him and he let himself go. When we got together he started taking care of himself more because I am 10 years younger and he was afraid I would find someone closer to my age that was more appealing. He now claims that these affairs happened because he hasn't gotten this kind of attention before. I am at a total loss. I don't know if I should stay or go and I have two amazing daughters that I need to be a good role model for. Is it better for them to see a woman that isn't afraid to fight for the person she loves, or a woman that won't let some MAN walk all over her?