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Is the door still open for something in the future?
Four months ago I met a man I can confidently say is an amazing, solid guy that I can see still see myself with in the future.
Six months before I met this guy, I had my heart completely broken. I trusted and cared deeply for a guy that did a number on me. When I met Mr. Amazing and he came after me, pursuing me and treating me like a woman deserves and wants to be treated, I was conflicted. On the inside I was so excited to have met this wonderful guy but on the outside I had built up some walls from my previous heartache.
After a couple months of him chasing after me and always trying to make plans with me and wanting me to meet more of his friends and family and him wanting to meet more of my family and friends and me keeping him at an arms length he started to get a little distant off and on but still the time we spent together was amazing and we would keep in touch every day throughout the day. After I had sometime to see that this guy was different I started to open up to the idea of letting this guy in and not worrying that I would get hurt like last time. During the time that I still had my walls up he would constantly ask me if everything was okay, tell me I seem different or distant and I would brush it off. Eventually he stopped asking me and started to get more distant. I thought if I just let him have his space he would turn around on his own. Instead he would get quiet and then communicate in fits in spurts questioning my level of interest etc. I tried talking to him and telling him how I was feeling but he seemed unwilling to really open up like he did before. I felt hurt that I was putting my feelings out there and not having his in return. I eventually told him I couldn't trust him with my heart anymore.
After I told him this he said he was sorry I felt that way, that I made him the happiest he has been a very long time and wanted me to call him and talk. I didn't because I really wanted him to pick up the phone and call me. After a day of me not responding he told me again that he thought I was done and that he hoped I was okay and that he thought I was so great and that I made him very happy. The next day I sent him a message to let him know how much I appreciated his kind words and that I think he is great as well and that getting to know him was a very happy time for me to. He told me if I ever have a change of heart to call him anytime. I told him I expressed what it is I need. If someone makes you that happy you dont let them slip away. I told him that he needs to figure out what he wants and it cant be at expense of my time and feelings. I am just an old fashioned girl at heart. He told me he knows I am an old fashioned girl and thats what drew him closer to me and that he knows he was distant and there is no excuse for it and that what we had and the way he felt was amazing. I told him that I know, because I felt the same. That it was the best feeling but that he was distant.
I know this is a lot, but I guess I am wondering if this is normal. For two people to think each other are so great, to acknowledge how happy we made each other and how amazing what we had was. I feel like there was miscommunication. Its like when he was open and had his heart in it completely he was hurt by my distance, in turn became distant when I had my heart open and then I was hurt.
I just don't know if this is the end for us, if there is an open door, if I should be the one to try and salvage something with someone I think is a perfect fit for me or if I should wait for him to be the one to initiate that possibility....
what to do? any takers on this one?