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Is our relationship going anywhere?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 3 months. I know that doesn't sound like very long- but we have fallen in love with each other and I really enjoy being with him. The problem is, I have recently begun to feel like our relationship isn't really progressing anywhere.
He is a restaurant manager and often has to work very late- and I work during the day- so our conflicting schedules sometimes make it more difficult for us to find time to see each other. When we first started dating, we were spending at least 2-3 nights a week together. Recently, that has dropped down to about one night a week. We talk every day and he texts me all the time telling me how much he loves me and misses me, or rambles on about how happy I make him, etc.. But then when I actually try to come over and spend time with him, he will be too tired from work/in a bad mood/wants to be alone, etc. He is very much an introvert and likes to have his alone time-- and I know his job is very exhausting, but I feel like if he really loved me as much as he claims to, he would make more of an effort to spend time with me. I'm not a clingy girl and I don't want to take over every moment of his life, I just feel like it’s impossible for us to build on our relationship when we hardly spend any time together.
I’m very confused by the mixed messages I am receiving from him. I know he isn’t seeing anyone else- so that’s not the issue. He tells me he loves me all the time, and I believe that he does, but then his actions make it seem like this relationship isn’t really a priority. I’ve kind of tried to mention this to him, but he gets very defensive so I usually just drop it. I’m just looking for some thoughts or advice on where to go from here? – Or maybe tips on how to talk to him about this. OR do you think I should just back off and let things keep going how they are for a while? Im really not ready to give up on this relationship yet- so any advice would be great! Thanks!!