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My boyfriend and I have been going out for a while now and we are extremely happy together~! We both know that we want to marry each other and we've lightly discussed marriage related topics (i.e. kids, money, ect..) The thing I'm struggling with is this...whenever the topic of marriage does come up I always say "When we get married..." and he always says "If we get married..." I asked him about it once and he told me that he didn't really mean it like that...but then how does he mean it? He's made it clear that he loves me and he says often that he couldn't live without me. So, why is it always an IF?? Or am I wrong in saying WHEN?? I don't want him to feel pressured into an engagement/marriage...I love him with all my heart and I want to spend my life with him...but, I'm really not in any hurry (although I wouldn't complain :])!! Am I pressuring him or pushing him away by always saying WHEN or is he trying to hint at something else when he says IF??