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If I stop seeing my friends with benefits, is there a chance he will realize what he' s missing and make me his girlfriend?

Published on October 6, 2010 by ashrl7

Seeing this guy for about 8 months. He had a girlfriend we first started seeing each other. They broke up 6 months into our "relationship" but he still hasn't committed. We basically do everything together but he refuses to give me a title. I told him 2 days ago that I need space because I want more. I haven't heard from him.


If you want more, and you have every right to want more, then telling him you want space was a good thing to do. Will that magically make him want to be your boyfriend? Maybe, maybe not. Only time will tell. He might have been happy just having sex with you with no strings attached, wanting nothing more than that.

Focus on yourself and your needs. If he cares about you, he'll let it be known. If he doesn't, you're free to find the kind of relationship you truly want and deserve.

Actions speak louder than words. He heard what you said, and he backed off.
Look, when you met him he was with someone else. At that point, you were his "jumpoff," his "chick on the side." He wasn't going to take you seriously, because in his mind, if you would mess around with him, knowing he had a girlfriend, then he believes that you would do it again if you met another guy. Plus, you deluded yourself into thinking that you had a "relationship" with him. To be blunt: you were just a piece of tail to him. When you told him that you wanted more, he bailed. What more do you really need to know?

i was in the exact same position with a guy and it lasted 2 years!!!! it ended when i found out he was seeing someone else.

if he doesn't commit to you, he's just not that into you. you deserve better. :)

This exact thing happened to me this year! I was really into a guy but he kept telling me he wasn't ready for a relationship. Everybody commented on how "in to me" he seemed but it led nowhere and I started feeling gross :/ Shortly after I "ended it" with him, he got a girlfriend and they've been together a few months now. Honeslty? It hurts, but youhave to let go. You deserve so much better and if he is not willing to commit to you when you want a commitement, then he doesn't deserve to have you at all :) Most of us learn this the hard way. Stay strong love!

I gave in and called him. We talked like nothing had happened. Then I called him again the next day and said I wanted to see him. That night I never heard from him. I called and he said he thought I wanted space and I can't just call expecting him to drop everything. He's never said something like that to me. We had a big argument. I asked him why he didn't stop me when I said I wanted space and he said that that would've signified that he wanted a relationship so he didn't. He said that he's so busy with school (He just joined a fraternity) that he doesn't even have time for a girlfriend but I feel like you make time for someone you care about, right? Anyways, he called me the next evening and we had a normal conversation then hung out all day yesterday. It was like old times and he said that I'm his best friend but I feel like yesterday was just a reminder of longing for something I want that's right there, but I can't have. As much as this hurts, I don't know if I can do it anymore. I may just start ignoring his calls...if he calls. But that makes me sad too. I know most of you have said I need to move on, it's just so hard.