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i went thru my bfs phone and now i regret it
background: one of my best friends was in a relationship going in 5 years, when he suddenly broke up with her. long story short she eventually came to find out that he is now with another girl and theyre already expecting. needless to say she was distraught, not knowing why he broke up with her in the first place, and how those years seemed to mean nothing to him bc it was so abrupt. anyways when she came to me for advice, i hurt for her bc i was scared that that could have easily been me; my bf and i have been together almost 4 years also and i would never have questioned his integrity....until now. yes i suppose my fear got the best of me and i went thru his phone. mind u i have had his password before but hes changed it and said there was no reason i should need it if i trust him. and he doesnt have mine either even though i've offered but he's never accepted. anyways when i went thru his phone i found pictures; of his friend a girl i do know about, in her bikini....and text messages between them, with her saying she was horny and he wanted her to send pictures, of her in lingerie that she said she was wearing...if anything it seemed like he was the one initiating and she was teasing him. i know they've met for coffee and he said in this conversation that she looked hot. his bothered me, having this information but hesistant to confront him bc of how i found out. i've given advice before in a similar situation to a friend and asked her why she snooped and only be willing to tell him if shes prepared to deal with a breakup. this is bothering my concious equally for 3 reasons ; 1) bc i snooped 2) bc he's initiating a sexual conversation with another girl 3) bc he had pictures of her in a bikini. i attempted to confront him when i asked to see pictures hes taken of us, knowing its in the same folder of where the other girls pictures were. i was beside him, but he pulled away and quickly deleted them. i asked him who that girl was bc i was able to see the pictures briefly and he said he didnt know who i was talking about. and yes i facebooked her and it is his friend that i saw. would i be this bothered if i hadnt snooped? no would i still trust him 100% if i hadnt have seen those pictures? yes but now that i have im questioning my...naivete. so basically i put myself in this situation and am reaping my consequences. i think its ok for 2 people to be in a relationship and think other people are attractive. but its not ok for my bf to be asking another girl to send pictures of herself in her underwear. but its also wrong that i looked thru his phone. what the hell do i do????