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I have 2 questions:
I have been talking on the phone/texting/traveling back and forth to see someone who lives out of state. He is someone I dated in high school (I am now 50+ years and so is he). We have re-connected and have come close to being engaged. There is a ring on hold right now at the jewelry store. He has told me that he has always loved me and always will and wished we married when we were young. We have developed a great relationship now, but there is something that is bothering me. There was a time when we have had some rocky times (long-distance relationships are very hard). During that time he and I seperately put up profiles on dating websites. I have not connected with anyone at all and I have told him that I have profiles up. He is still looking on the site and checking it out pretty regularly. With us almost engaged, this makes me feel funny. To me, it's almost like a red flag, but I don't know if I should take it that way. Could you give me some insight as to your opinion of this? We have both said that once we're married - we will take down our profiles.
The same man wants me to move to his state. If we marry, that will have to happen and I realize that. I live with my elderly mother (who would move with me) and there are many details that need to be taken care of for her sake and I'm still not sure about marrying. So, I have drug my feet on buying plane tickets and packing, etc. He is ready right now for me to move to his town. He's been asking for a long time. A few days ago he told me on the phone that he was not going to call me again until I bought plane tickets. I didn't know if he really meant it. But I am finding out that he is serious. We have texted and talked that way, but he won't call and I can't call him. So, now communication has basically ended. This feels like a game and it is making me seriously reconsider our relationship. I don't think he knows it, but he just shot himself in the foot. It makes me want to start connecting with other men to see if I can find someone who is a little more mature. Am I wrong in feeling this way? Please help me understand what he is doing or what I should do? I'm very confused.