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How to tell if he's attracted to me

Published on January 1, 2012 by msspml

I have met a great guy on match.com and we have been seeing each other for about 6 weeks. He lives in a city about 30 miles away and we do something together about once a week on the weekend. I have a great time with him and we have alot in common and can talk for hours. But I am confused because he doesn't show any interest in a physical relationship. He does kiss me goodnight but that is all. I am confused as to why he would be this way. I have guys hitting on me all the time so I am not sure what is going on and I don't know how to approach the subject and ask him.

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In my opinion, it depends on his background. How old is he? Has he had any girlfriend in the past? It could be that he's just shy.

Depending upon how long he was married, he may not be comfortable moving quickly into a physical relationship. Or he may be moving slow out of respect for you. Sometimes, he just needs a little encouragement.

If you are comfortable with the small physical gestures, an occasional playful touch to the knee or a brush of the hand during a conversation will light a fire.

Approach him that way and get a new perspective on his responsiveness. His reaction will help to guide you to the right conversation. Promise...

If he's 50, there are a lot of reasons he might want to move slowly: he's worried about STDs, he's worried about a woman going psycho on him (think "Fatal Attraction"), he's got religious convictions about pre-marital sex, he's got a "rule" about getting to know a woman for XX months before doing anything, he's cautious about being with a complete stranger, he's dating someone else at the same time.

I would sit back and enjoy getting to know each other even if your engines are revving. Let yourselves fall in love slowly--so that you're sure you love each other for your personalities, not just for sex.

If he's not more demonstrative in 5 months, then you might want to be a bit more direct in either asking or taking the lead.

By the way, if he's driving 30 miles once a week to spend time with you, he IS attracted to you. Men don't waste their time.

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