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How to start over?

Published on April 30, 2009 by gapch

I am a young 54 year old widow. I was married for 25 years and lost my husband two years ago. I loved my husband so much my first thought was I would never date again. I'm not looking for someone to replace my husband, just a new beginning. I have found myself in new territory, I am a strong independent woman, but lonely.....not desperate! I actually have several questions, how do you start over? I'm not into bar scenes, but how do you meet someone? On-line is a little scarey, but does this work? Does men really want you to contact them or do they want to do the contacting. I live in a small town, so we do not much activities/functions. I could use all the help you have.


Why don't you branch out and take some cooking classes (lots of cities have cooking classes for singles) and your local community center offers lots of classes for cheap. Take a class at a community college. Get involved in a local club like a book club (check with your local B&N or library). Do you work? If you have a job let people at work know you're looking. If you don't have a job, get one! A PT job working as a receptionist somewhere will put you in contact with tons of people. Also, if you're religious church is awesome.

There are bowling leagues. You can sign up to play softball with a city team....sooo many options. Also, I live in a small town too and it has all of these options. So no excuses!

I think it is amazing that you are getting out there, and I really admire you for that!

I have an aunt who is single in her early 60's looking like a 45 year old. She had created a few profiles on various dating website and was actually quite successful. One of her relationship lasted over a year, but his grown daughters got on a way because he was a newly widowed. So yes, you could have some bad experiences but you could have bad experiences with anything else too. Men who are successful and single, particularly at that age, do not go out looking for a date and more and more turn to internet in search for a potential partner. Do some research and go for it.