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How to shake a guy that won't commit but also won't leave me alone? (Bonus problem: I really like him)
I've been seeing him for almost 2 months and he has brought up several times that he isn't looking for anything serious.... only then to begin making plans with me to do things months in advance. I figured I'd just suck it up because I really like him and we're very compatible in almost every way and give him time to figure out what's going on in his head.
The final straw for me was a few days ago when he told me his new years resolution was to stop leading me on. I told him I liked him too much to keep hanging out with no hope of it developing into something more serious - I would just be leading myself to a broken heart. I said that if he didn't want anything serious I wasn't going to try to change his mind; I know he's had some rough relationships in the past and it would take more than me begging him to get into a relationship with me to get past them.
This morning, less than 3 days after telling him it was completely over, he texted me something obscure about his day as if nothing had happened. I didn't respond because I didn't want us to fall back into the same casual thing, but I also didn't want to tell him to leave me alone because if he is working things out in his head I don't want to push him away.
Did I do the right thing to ignore his text? Am I doing the right thing in general by telling him I can't see him if he's going to keep saying it will never go anywhere? I need help, I'm so confused by the whole thing because we do have an amazing time together, he's the sweetest guy and took good care of me (rushing over to make me feel better after receiving an awful LSAT score, helping me care for a new tattoo, etc.) and called me for support as soon as he got bad news from an old friend. ??