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How much is too much too soon?

Published on November 6, 2010 by firefly

The last relationship I was in was AMAZING, and we were to be wed, but after tragic events he passed away. I fell into a deep depression, and over a year later I am still dealing with it daily. HOWEVER!! I met a guy, and I like him.

The first day we hung out he asked me to be his gal, and I said yes. But it seems like he wants to move way faster then I am even ready for. I've told him bits about what happened to my last man, but I don't think he gets it.

He is already talking about how he wants to be with me for two or more years, and how he wants to travel with me, and it's kinda freaking me out.

I like him, and I want it to work, but I am having a problem figuring out the balance. The balance of how fast, and how much info we should be giving each other.

A huge thing for me is sex. I want it. OH YEAH, but I'm just not ready emotionality to share that with him. I asked if we could wait a while one night when we were getting hot, and his reply was "yeah a few days is fine." I was thinking a bit more then a few days.

Any help... Any advice. Thank you so much!!


A man must get into my heart before he gets into my pants!! Stick to your rules if youre not ready emotionally, it will be regretful and steer you away.

Stick to the way you feel. Always follow your heart. If he can't accept the way you feel and stick around to make it work then either he isn't ready for commitment or he isn't worth the time and effort. If you feel like he is being sincere and you really like him then maybe it wouldn't be such a bad idea to open up and tell him everything about your situation. It could do some good to talk about it at least.