This is an arranged marriage you said, right? I'm going to assume that there is a cultural or religious difference so that typical USA ideas about dating, romance and marriage are not necessarily applicable, okay?
At this time just based on what you said, it sounds like the marriage was arranged but you husband was not consulted or at least feels like he wasn't. Add to that, it sounds like he feels he was not consulted regarding your career; then you stopped working and he stopped working, so now there are financial problems.
My suggestion to you would be to remind you that marriage is a commitment. You made a commitment to act in a way that reserves all your affection and loyalty for him, and yet those two actions alone sound like he feels pretty disrespected...and men need respect. So first, I would encourage you to honor your commitment and have your loyalty to your husband, not your parents. Once a marriage is arranged, you are not in your parent's house anymore. Second, I would encourage you to learn how to build love and respect, and in this instance you may have to start first and let him see you doing it. To build love and respect in your home, you do two things: 1) find out the things you have done that have hurt him and caused harm to the marriage and stop doing those things; and 2) find out the things that generate a feeling of love and respect in him and begin to do those things. Now by the way, I am fully aware that he has probably also done things to hurt you and caused harm to the marriage, but you can not change him--you can only focus on YOU and change yourself and the way you are.
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