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How to find new love and build self-confidence?

Published on January 1, 2012 by saruru92

After I broke up with my last boyfriend I felt like something's missing from my life. It's been almost 8 months, and I think I am not in love with him anymore, I don't even want to get back with him again, I wanna find someone new.. I don't know how to deal with this.. How and where  to find someone who might be good for me. I'm still a student and there's no one at school who I like or vica versa. I don't really like to go to parties, only once in a while ( I don't really have time for it right now), I feel like when I go outside (even in my best mood) no one cares about me and no one finds me beautiful. I guess it's all about charisma and self-confidence. I've been trying to have a better point of view of myself but seems like I'm not good at this....Could you help me please how to build more self-confidence and find a new love?


Maybe your close friends can introduce you to new people. This way it's more likely you have many things in common with them :-)

Reading through your question, you have a good understanding of what you need to Ready Yourself for love - confidence in yourself will draw love to you. And from further investigation - you seem like a lady full of ambition - Great Start! Recognizing that you don't have time to be out means that you are working hard on meeting personal goals - school, work, and now self-improvement! Nice job! I'm already seeing something beautiful about you - even if you haven't yet noticed it yourself. I'd bet you have lots to offer someone and just need to figure out where he is hiding.

When you are in a bad place like this, you need to take emergency action to find joy and peace again:

You need to get yourself out of this self-destructive mode by helping someone in need. It doesn't matter how. Try babysitting for an overwhelmed mom, or tutoring a kid, or helping an old person with their weekly shopping. The self-pity is dragging you down.

When you start giving and volunteering, you will find new self-confidence and joy. Remarkably, love will beat a path to your door.

Don't discount the healing powers of an online dating profile. Even if you don't end up going on a date with anyone who contacts you, getting replies to your profile is a nice pick-me-up and can be a valuable confidence booster in the wake of a breakup.

There's a bunch of free sites to join like that have a "social networking" feel. Sites like and require a membership fee and have more strict requirements to participate.

Obviously, use good judgement in how much personal info you post or divulge, don't meet up with shady people in the back of a parked windowless van, etc., etc. =P