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How does depression affect marriage counseling?
My wife and I recently started seeing a marriage counselor because my wife states that during the last two years I pushed her away and treated her poorly. My wife feels that because of my actions during this period she cannot trust herself and her feelings with me. During the first few sessions, our counselor suggested that my wife write a list of things she felt I needed. She did not do this. Our sessions now focus on me committing to her and the counselor that I hurt her and how I did it. I admitted to pushing her away occasionally during this time. I tell her that the reason for this was because of my desire to find a job during this time - I was unemployed and sometimes distracted by this. I tell her I will do anything to move pass this to happiness and ask her what can I do. Could you provide some ideas why my wife focuses so much on this? She recently sent me a note, some internet stuff, and insisted that if I understood her depression better, this would help me to stop hurting her. Is that true? How does depression affect our relationship?