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How do you approach suspicions that your boyfriend is bi-sexual?
My boyfriend of almost 1 year is a wonderful man. I love him with all my heart and honestly could see myself spending my life with him. We had a few rough patches with fighting, but have been on the right track for a while now. We just moved in together and things seem to be going very well. He is straight, but very very metrosexual. I've never known a straight man with so many feminine quirks, but I'd like to chalk it up that he is just very particular about his appearance, and he is. His feelings towards homosexuality seem normal enough. He doesn't think gay marriage should be legal, but has no problems with gay people. So he doesn't have an "extreme" viewpoint for, or against. (not overcompensating by showing hatred or anything like that) During a rough patch at the beginning of our relationship (less than 1 month together), I found that he still had a personals site up. I approached him about it and he got rid of it. Now, I did have his e-mail password, and in June we got into a serious fight that resulted in a "break." It was only for 1 week. I panicked and snooped in his e-mail. He had responded to a craigslist ad for a casual encounter. The title was along the lines of M2M, 69 in our city. In his response (in his sent folder), he simply wrote "21/m/city". Nothing more. He didn't include pictures or anything. The ad that he responded to was a man holding his penis up for the camera. I obviously spazzed out but didn't say anyhting to him because, 1. didn't want him to know I snooped, and 2. I was worried that he would be so embarassed we'd completely break up, or 3. he would flat out deny it. A week later, I looked again and he had deleted his sent folder. I did check his e-mail several times to see if the person he wrote to responded, and they never did. So as far as I know, nothing happened. It's been several months since then, and our relationship has been very solid. So I don't want to rock the boat by bringing it up, but it still is on my mind and eats at me a bit. I don't know what to do. I don't know how to approach this at all. If he is bi, and told me, I'd be fine with it. I would have no problem, as long as he didn't cheat on me and didn't try to pursue these feelings. We have an AMAZING sex life, so obviously his possible bi-sexuality has NO negative impact on our sex life at all. Any advice is appreciated!!