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How do i tell my FWB im in love with him?

Published on August 6, 2011 by xocutiepieox40

I met my FWB almost 2 years ago, and all i want to do is be with him. I fell pretty hard for him so far but i dont want him to know because it might ruin the relationship. A couple months ago we stopped talking for like, 3 months and i was absolutly devastated. I wasnt eating good, i cried a lot, and i was really mean to my family and friends. I got his number from one of his friends at a party and thats when we started talking again. I dont wanna break it off, but i do because he blows me off all the time for his friends, when we do see each other its only for maybe a half hour tops, and im not allowed to talk about us to his or my friends, or even hang with his friends at all, whenever he would go out or have a bonfire i wouldnt be invited. Hes never lied about anything, but it really sucks how hes constantly busy or blowing me off. On the otherhand he makes subtle hints about being with him like "im sure we'll be dating eventually" or "i promise things will be change soon" but nothings happened. I just wanna tell him im in love with him and i have been since i met him, but i dont wanna loose what we have. Im so lost with this whole thing, i dont get much sleep, im still depressed, and i still dont eat right, so i dont get what im missing. Hes the most amazing person when im with him, but if were just talking on the phone or if i see him around the city he acts like he has no idea who i am! How do i tell him how i feel? Or shud i just leave him for someone better?

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You have to know the answer to this... why are you asking? He is using you. You're the booty call. This man gives you NOTHING but pain and you want to hang on to THAT? Do you honestly think that he cares if you love him or not? You need to move on and get a new man. But more importantly, you need to figure out why you have such low self-esteem that you let a guy treat you like this and think there's a "relationship" because he spends a 1/2 hour with you occasionally so you can give him sex? You love him? Why the HELL would you love someone who treats you like that? This may sound cruel, but is meant to be kind: You need to get some counseling.

I had been in love with my FWB before so I know what you're feeling, and I'm sorry to say that you have to move on from him. You need to end your sexual relationship with him if you want to find happiness. It's going to hurt like hell, but it will make you a stronger person to do it. Once you break things off with him, take the time you need to cry your heart out, and then get back in the dating game - or if you have no qualms about it, find a one night stand (or have a series of them) and get him out of your system. Don't stay at home and mope. Get out and have as much fun as possible. That's what I had to do. There really is no hope of your casual relationship turning into something more substantial. And you have to accept that. Once you accept this, you will recover and will eventually be at peace with yourself. I know I am, and you can too.

I had been in love with my FWB before so I know what you're feeling, and I'm sorry to say that you have to move on from him. You need to end your sexual relationship with him if you want to find happiness. It's going to hurt like hell, but it will make you a stronger person to do it. Once you break things off with him, take the time you need to cry your heart out, and then get back in the dating game - or if you have no qualms about it, find a one night stand (or have a series of them) and get him out of your system. Don't stay at home and mope. Get out and have as much fun as possible. That's what I had to do. There really is no hope of your casual relationship turning into something more substantial. And you have to accept that. Once you accept this, you will recover and will eventually be at peace with yourself. I know I am, and you can too.

I was in love with my FWB too. When I told him my feelings it ruined everything. We had a huge fight, and did not talk for about 3 months. This was so hard as we both work together in a small kitchen, many times it was just he and I working together. After awhile he came around and apologized. It took us a long time to start our relationship back up. I finally feel after 2 years, we are back where we were. My advise to you is do not say anything. If your feelings are that strong, you need to end the FWB. Unfortunately, with a FWB it is strickly sex. Women become emotional attached where guys can separate themselves. A FWB can be a great thing, if you are willing and able to separate yourself. I FULLY get where you are coming from, cause mine did the same thing. Acted like he didn't know me, especially after we had sex. Now, cause he knows we are strickly FWB and no strings attached, our relationship is great. We now talk, joke, there is no pressure. He is amazing in bed, we do "quickes" at work. If you want your FWB to work out, you need to remove those feelings and meet other guys. You might just be missing out on the perfect guy if you wait around for your FWB to have feelings for you, cause I can almost guarentee he never will. I'm sorry to say. I wish I really had the right answer for you. Good luck. Keep me posted.

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