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How do I help him bring his guard down?
I've known this guy for 4 years and we used to date. We dated 3 years ago and we broke up because the relationship got sexual too fast. Even though it didn't work out the first time. We still remained friends and he dated other girls and it seems like he fell in love easily with them. We kept in touch over the years and eventually realized we had more feelings for each other. Now we are both single and have admitted to loving each other, but there problem is he has problem opening up. He fears that if he lets his guard down I will hurt him. I've tried doing everything to let him know I would never hurt him. One day he made me mad and i told him that i thought he was the type of person that spoke from the mind instead the heart. And that he might have thought he loved me. And now he started to think that I'm right. I didn't mean to do this and I also hurt him saying that so now his guard is higher than before. I know I screwed up. Now he is confused about what he wants. He seems to be over thinking everything. How do I let him no I was just mad and that I'm sorry for saying that. How do I get him to let the guard down?
Also he hurt me 4 times before and I act on emotions and I let him know that I don't want anyone else. But he thinks I should move on. Is there someone else. I just don't what to do. he is the only one I imagined ever getting serious and starting a future with and i have told him that, but he just doesn't seem to think he's worth it. PLEASE HELP