My first thought is you need a new lawyer, someone who will take your calls and your case seriously. You want to get what's fair in the situation.
But most importantly, the second part of your question involving learning to live again is a little more complicated. You will need to let go of your relationship with your husband. This means stop wishing you will get back together and stop being hurt and/or angry. When you think of him, you want to be grateful for the good parts of the relationship and forgiving of the rest so you can successfully move on. As long as you are still emotionally connected with him, it will be difficult for you to start something new that works out well.
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I am sorry you're having to go through this right now. Your ex is behaving like a bratty child and you don't deserve it.
Definitely third the advice to find a new lawyer-- in most states the division of assets is pretty well laid out, you just need someone to help guide you through it. You deserve a lawyer who returns phone calls, answers questions, and does whatever is necessary to get this resolved quickly so you can get back on your financial feet.
Next, find a good therapist and a support group. Find a support group NOW, as in today, as in why are you still reading this... look on Meetup or google to see what's going on in your area. It may take a few tries to find a therapist that you can both afford and who you have a good rapport with, but finding yourself in the midst of a group of people who are going through the same thing should help you find your equilibrium while you're looking for a therapist. Let yourself be supported by others. What you're going through right now is hard, but there's no reason to do it alone.
Lastly, think about what you want your life to look like in a year or so when the dust settles. Then make one small positive step towards realizing that life every day. Give yourself something to look forward to. When you have the energy, take up a hobby or take a class so you will meet other people-- and not just men. Don't underestimate the healing power that a few good friendships will have in your life right now. You definitely don't want another romantic relationship in your life until you've moved on from this one. I know you feel as if you've got a gaping hole in your life from the ending of this relationship-- but starting another one right away isn't going to fill it. And trying will not be fair to either you or the man you try it with.
Good luck. Take a few deep breaths. You will get through this.
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