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How do I even begin to bring up the idea of an open marriage with my wife?

Published on June 6, 2010 by lowell.aeschliman

We've been married 22+ years. We're raising three children. Actually our youngest is starting high school next fall. My wife was a RN for twenty years before health issues ended her career. She has to take many medications. When we spend time together she often falls asleep. She doesn't feel comfortable going out anymore. Our sex life is almost non-existent now. I've been a life long monogamist but I find myself rethinking that choice. I don't think she would be receptive to changing to an open marriage. I love my wife.


Chances are, she's not going to be receptive at all. Honestly, it may suck, but you made a commitment and you should stick to it or file for divorce. I had a similar situation with my ex, and fortunately we didn't have kids together, so we just decided to split. There were times when we wouldn't have sex for over 6 months, and I really felt that I had every right to be sleeping with other people, but I had promised to be faithful, and that isn't a promise that should be broken. It's not your wife's fault if she's having medical issues. It's not like she loves you any less. Think about this: what would happen if the situation were reversed? Would she stick by you, or would she want to have an open relationship, and how would you feel about your wife sleeping with other men? Just a thought. Good luck!