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how do i deal with the silent treatment from my wife.

Published on September 27, 2009 by one sided

I feel like im obssesed with trying to figure out what i did or whats wrong. I feel like im not wanted and that I have to walk on egg shell in my own house.

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If she won't tell you what's bothering her then ignore her and do your own things. If it gets to the point of walking on eggshells it is time to assert yourself and walks like a human being and not be hangdog enjoy what ever you like if she does not like it too bad for her!

I agree with the second part of what Vasha said, it's time to assert yourself. That does not mean get rude to her or insult your wife. What I would do though is walk into the room where ever she is and sit down next to her. Tell her you both need to talk and if she is silent and not looking at you, then stop and say something like. 'could you at least look me in the eye when I'm talking to you please'

I'm guess she will stare daggers at you for a moment but she will look at you. Be calm but firm and tell her that you have noticed how she is and that it's time to talk it out. See what she has to say, my guess is she will blow up about something that is really bugging her and if she does, sit back and listen. When she says how she feels, go from there but talk it out and don't cast blame.

She is really upset about something and it seems to me that she just does not know how to express herself.

I WISH MY EX HUSBAND WOULD GIVE ME THE SILENT TREATMENT.I WOULDNT CARE IF HE EVER SPOKE TO ME AGAIN!

The whole thing is garbage. It's a form of punishment. You should not allow yourself to get caught up in it. You're doing exactly what she wants you to do: beating yourself over the head about what's wrong, asking her to talk to you, etc.

The whole thing is contradictory to what a marriage is supposed to be about. It's supposed to be about communication. If she has that big of a problem talking, then she should at least have the courtesy and decency to tell you "Look, I'm angry right now, and I need some time to myself. I'm not ready to talk about this just yet."

She's playing a game. A silly, stupid, childish game.

As a general rule I am against the silent treatment. However, I have seen circumstances when it is the ONLY solution for a husband who refuses to believe something is the problem.

I am not down with so readily dissing your wife without knowing the circumstances. What happened right before the silent treatment?

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